One way the enemy keeps a person in an offended state is to keep the offense
hidden, cloaked with pride. Pride will keep you from admitting your true
Once I was severely hurt by a couple of ministers. People would say, “I can’t
believe they did this to you. Aren’t you hurt?” I would quickly respond, “No, I am
fine. I’m not hurt.” I knew it was wrong to be offended, so I denied and
repressed it. I convinced myself I was not, but in reality I was. Pride masked the
true condition of my heart.
Pride keeps you from dealing with truth. It distorts your vision. You never
change when you think everything is fine. Pride hardens your heart and dims the
eyes of your understanding. It keeps you from the change of heart – repentance
– that will set you free (See 2 Timothy 2:21-25).
Pride causes you to view yourself as a victim. Your attitude becomes, “I was
mistreated and misjudged; therefore, I am justified in my behavior.” Because you
believe you are innocent and falsely accused, you hold back forgiveness.
Though your true heart condition is hidden from you, it is not hidden from God.
Just because you were mistreated, you do not have permission to hold on to an
offense. Two wrongs do not make a right!